Monday, February 1, 2016

Positive Words

Hello Loves,

Happy February! February is the month of love and romance yet for some reason we always forget to include ourselves in the love. It seems like if we do include ourselves we are arrogant or full of ourselves or we don't include ourselves and we are self-deprecating. I'm just another person that suffers with this everyday! But I found this really cool challenge and I wanted to challenge you all to try it with me!!

one// Be Mindful of Your Own Words
Think about the words you use especially about yourself. Are they negative? Do you see yourself in a positive light? Do you speak positively of yourself to others? The way you think and speak is incredibly powerful in the way you see yourself. Thinking and speaking of yourself in a positive way is more difficult than it sounds because most of us tend to be very self-critical. By being so self-critical we tend to skew our language more negatively. Pay attention to your words and try to use more positive word, even if it completely counters how you feel or think.
For example: if you find yourself looking in front of a mirror thinking "I look frumpy" try flipping that to "I look fabulous" Transforming your thoughts, even in small things, will add up to a great change in your day and even life.

two// Watch Out For Mirroring
Mirroring is when you mirror the negative language a person around you might be using. For example if your friend says "ugh, I feel so fat today" and you agree with "ugh, me too!" you come off as being empathetic even if you really weren't feeling fat. You are just mimicking your friend. Think about how you felt before you said it and after? Did it change? It makes sense that we mirror each other- its how we bond, shows empathy, makes the other person feel understood. But its not positive or healthy, its bringing you both down. 
Next time someone says something negative around you, don't agree! Flip it! Counter with "you aren't fat at all, in fact we both look fabulous!!" Together this is help contribute to a positive mindset.

three//Choose A Word Of The Day
Its hard enough to deal with the everyday pressures of life and the last thing we should be doing is adding more to that by talking to ourselves negatively. One way to focus on being more positive is to choose a (positive) word of the day! Sometimes its hard to come up with good things to say about yourself, so I borrowed this list that you can print out and place on your mirror to remind yourself of how amazing you are. So I challenge you to every morning, if you can, pick out a word that embodies how you feel (or want to feel) that day and try to keep it in mind the whole day. After choosing a word, you might want to look up the definition to get an even more precise idea of what it means (and maybe even some additional insight on how to embrace it).

Bonus Idea: print out and frame the list, then place it somewhere you will see every morning. Each day use a dry erase marker to circle your word of the day. If you live with multiple people that want to participate choose a different marker for each person. Good luck and have fun!

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four//Stay Positively Inspired
Some days the positivity is harder to come by, so you might need some extra inspiration. Keep a collection of sayings or YouTube videos that inspire you or bring you up. It's important to surround yourself with people, situations, and influences that encourage you to see the good in yourself. Whatever it is, find something that keeps you focused on loving yourself for who you are. Because you are amazing and you deserve all the love.

Stay Positive. Stay in Love