Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Things to Stop Freaking Out About

Hello Loves!

This always happens, tiny freak outs in your mind. Large freak outs to your best friend or family. It's never pretty, lots of concern and usually tears come along. It happens more often than we'd like to admit.

The constant worrying, obsessing, and over-analyzing can really take a toll on life. There is always something to freak out about if we let ourselves. There is always more anxiety to feel. More to question about our lives.

Reflecting back, I wish I had realized how much energy I wasted on little things. I wish I could still pick those apart now and stop my freak outs. It's hard to sit down and think in the moment. Hindsight is always 20/20, so I'm trying to remind myself slowly and gently every day.

What I've learned is that when we become better friends with that little voice inside our heads, and more importantly become a better boss of it, our whole day gets better. Our ability to love ourselves gets easier. and the freak outs get less frequent.

If you're finding yourself in any of these common freak outs listen up:

1. Starting college in the fall - This is one of the most insightful times of your life. It won’t always be roses but it’s exciting. Let yourself enjoy this next chapter.
2. Finding a job - The right one will come. Keep at it. Networking. Connecting. Refining your skills. And getting the right help. Every job is a stepping stone. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
3. Saving money - Do what you can with where you’re at. Even a little bit helps.
4. Booking your vacation - There’s options. You don’t have to book something extreme. Book something that allows you to turn off.
5. Changing your hair - If you feel the urge, do it. Hair always grows back.
6. Being single - You have your whole life to be in a relationship. Enjoy the freedom for now. And keep your standards high.
7. “Looking good” in a bathing suit - No one is looking. They’re all worried about how they look. Enjoy the beach and forget about your belly or thighs.
8. If you made the right decision - Every wrong decision leads you to the right one.
9. Finding your purpose in life - Keep doing. Keep trying. It will reveal itself through action.
10. Losing hair in the shower - Almost always a normal thing. No need to text pictures of it to your mom.
11. A broken phone/computer/charger - It happened. Fix it. And move on.
12. Deciding on a name for your new blog/business/book - Let it go. Turn off the thinking. It will come to you when you relax.
13. Getting all of your work done - In the time you’ve been freaking out about it you could have been getting some of it done. So do something about it. In your control.
14. Breaking that bad habit - Everyone has them. Its OK. You’ll break it when you want to.
15. Being “found out” - You’re competent. You deserve this. Believe that.
16. Moving to a new city - Wild and exciting. Revel in the unknown instead of worry about what’s next.
17. Accidents, like leaving the freezer open overnight - Throw out the ice cream and call it a day. Shit happens.
18. Pimples - Quit picking. Touching. Worrying. Dermatologists can help. But mostly no one even notices so don’t let it ruin that date, day, presentation or picture. You’re beautiful.
19. Getting a text back - You can’t control people.
20. Your emails - If they really needed you, they’d call. It’s never as important as we think. You’ll get to that inbox when you do.
21. Who’s viewing your snapchats - It doesn’t mean what you think it does. Let it go.
22. The election - Vote how you want to vote. Use your voice.
23. Saying the right things - Your words contribute only 7% of what a person remembers of a convo. Think about your energy and body language instead.
24. What could go wrong - Quit stealing from your current joy by fantasizing tragedy.
25. Anything in the future - Not in your control. Ever. Focus on the now and what’s in your power (aka this exact moment).

Remember all of these things are things you cannot change. Why spend so much time on something if you can't change it? It's okay to worry, but you can make it. Slow down, breathe deep, and keep moving forward.
What is on your list?