Friday, March 31, 2017

Book Club {March 2017}

Hello Fellow Clubbies!

Well we are three months done with the year (1/4 of the way!!) and I haven't really upped my reading game. As I mentioned in my 101 in 1001 final day, I didn't get through my list and I only missed it by 3 books!! It was very disappointing to say the least. February was rough in terms of not getting any reading done. For whatever reason I stayed on the same book for over a month even though it was a good and easy read. This month was my last push before 101 in 1001 was over and before starting my new challenge!

one// Where'd You Go, Bernadette? by Maria Semple
I LOOOOVED this book! It is just so easy to get caught up in the book that you forget about the world around you. Honestly, it is a fairly easy ready. But I really like how its written; a compilation of letters/emails/notes/faxes/etc between people to tell a story. It is cool to be able to read from so many perspectives, a seemingly benign book that turns into a captivating mystery being written right in front of your eyes! Go read it.

two//The 5 Love Languages: The Secrets to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
I read this one by request of someone else. I was not sure what to expect (okay false, I thought it was going to be cheesy and weird!) but I really ended up enjoying it. Its actually a quick ready (it took me one afternoon) and you learn so much about yourself. I now know how I require to be loved in order to have my "love tank full" which is really amazing. I think knowing yourself like this can really revolutionize relationships (not just romantic ones). I would recommend reading it.

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three// Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
As an introvert I was very intrigued by this book when my junior league added it to the list of books for our monthly book club. Funny thing is I actually listened to her TEDtalk before I even picked up this book!
What are you reading?

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Maintaining Long Distance Friendships

Hello Friends!

I have several friends that have lived very far from me and sometimes it can be hard. One of my best friends I've known my entire life and we've lived on opposite parts of the country our entire lives. During college my best friend moved away and we had to learn how to be friends apart. It can be hard when your friendships change like that. You have to figure out what works for both of you. I love my best friend and I'm so happy that we were able to figure out how to stay as close.

one// Embrace The Space
It would be easy to focus on the negatives of being far apart, but try to embrace the positives instead. Moving away was extremely hard on both of us. It turned out to be a good thing because that means we had to make friends with other people instead of just spending all of our time together.

two// Know Your "Friend Language"
Maddy is not good at keeping in touch, but she doesn't mind my endless double texts. She prefers phone calls so the 2 hour calls once a week were the best part of college. It was a great time to catch up on everything. Maybe you and your friends need to touch base on Skype every Tuesday (like L and me) or chat on the phone while you're driving somewhere (like Keri and I). Its one of those things where it depends on both people and the friendship.

three//Make Plans
Part of the work of a long-distance friendship is making sure you see each other. You can go to her, che can go to you, or you can meet somewhere neutral. Now that we're adults, we can make our own schedules and see each other more frequently. We make plans either in advance or last minute, but when we can make it work, we make it work. 

four//Put In The Work
Sometimes this can be really hard. But you have to purposefully put in the effort to keep in touch with each other. You have to willingly put in the work. So many good friendships fall apart because of someone moving away, but they aren't strong enough friendships to withstand the distance. That's fine and totally normal. But if you have a long-distance friendship to work, YOU have to put in the world. You both do.

five//Have FaithWhen you put in the work and do everything you can, you just need to have a little faith that the magic that is friendships will last.

Do you have a long distance friend?


Monday, March 27, 2017

Weekend Adventure

Hello Friends!

This past weekend was absolutely crazy busy! I had some fun, went on a quick trip, and came back in time for a ball. I thought I would share some of the fun I had with you all today. It was a great time and I am really looking forward to a quiet weekend this week.

Thursday morning I headed to the airport for a quick trip to Columbus, Ohio. This was very short trip. I was there for a meeting that I couldn't do over Skype. Luckily, I got to visit the university in Columbus. Sadly, I was not able visit most of the city surrounding the campus.

It was a beautiful couple of days before I had to fly back home. It wasn't all that cold so I could really stand walking around and enjoy my time. Friday afternoon I flew back home. So typically I like to pick up some present for my family when I travel and since I didn't have any time to gather anything in Columbus I ended up buying the most delicious popcorn in the airport in Chicago.

As I have said many times now, I work as a volunteer in the American Red Cross. It is so fun. This Saturday my chapter celebrated its 100th year of service. This was celebrated as a ball. We had a great time. I got to meet so many amazing people that allow the Red Cross to help all of its clients.

They had this fabulous idea of dressing a Red Cross club as nurses from different decades of the Red Cross history. We had nurses from the 1910s-1970s. Plus a man from WWI. They were such a hit with all the guests. Since March is Red Cross month there really was no better time to celebrate than now. I look forward to keep celebrating all the amazing accomplishments our chapter has achieved.

An artist painted this during the ball. Thursday-Saturday have been incredibly busy. So I was able to take Sunday off and totally relax. My mom, sister, and I were able to watch Great British Bake Off. It is our favorite cooking show. We spend plenty of time watching it and trying to bake things we saw on TV. We have our own Sunday Bake Days to copy recipes from the show.

What did you do this past weekend?

Friday, March 24, 2017


Hello Friends!

Well we are finally in spring!! Spring means that Summer is right around the corner!! YAY!! Now is the time for spring breaks and "summer bodies" this also means time for new swimsuits! I have not bought a new swimsuit that I really like in a long time, which means that now I'm spending a lot of time looking at them online. It is important to remember, the earlier in the season you buy them the more affordable and more choices you have. So while it may seem a little early to the game, we might actually be just in time! Here are a couple that I am considering for myself.

Main Image - Ted Baker London Bandeau Bikini Top Slide View: 1: Solid & Striped Lexi One-Piece Main Image - Billabong Amaze High Neck Bikini Top
Primary Image of LOFT Beach Scalloped One Piece Swimsuit Slide View: 2: Shoshanna Santorini Triangle Bikini Top  Halter bow-tie one-piece swimsuit  Slide View: 2: High-Neck Halter Bikini Top  Slide View: 3: Seafolly Rivera Striped Boyleg One-Piece Main Image - Trina Turk 'Algiers' High Neck One-Piece Swimsuit 

What kind of beach going days would it be without some cover ups? I really like this one and this one
Which do you like?

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Organizing Your Bathroom

Hello Lovelies,

I know I've been know to say how much I love organizing things. Well this is just an extra step I'm taking at this point in my life. Now you have have clicked this and started laughing to yourself thinking "oh Daphne, what are you getting us into today?" but seriously think about it when was the last time you truly organized your bathroom. Made it really functional. You know what I mean?

one// Stock your medicine cabinet with everything but medicine. Growing up, my parents always kept all our first aid supplies, aspirin, cold medicine, etc. in a cabinet in the kitchen, not the bathroom.

Tips for repurposing your candle jars   keeping them clean:

two// Re-purpose old candles as new storage vessels. Some candles are just too pretty to throw away and this is my favorite way to give them new life. I love being able to re-purpose them, I have a bunch in my bathroom already.

three// Use clear containers to store make up brushes, cotton balls, and Q-tips. You can use the candles that you re-purposed and put your make up brushes in them. All the extra stuff can be stored in their packaging underneath the sink.

four// Keep a small tray on your counter to corral your every day essentials. Okay yes, this can get a little messy, but it helps keep your stuff in one place. This is the best way to keep your essentials to a minimal, as well.

Modern Gray - Shower Organization - Hexagon Tile - Bathroom Ideas - Kitchen Design:

five// If you don't have space for that tray (like me), add extra shelves to your bathroom. I keep my tray on some extra shelves that I added to my bathroom. Originally, I only had one shelf but as things started accumulating, I needed more space. Since the shelves are open for everyone to see, it is important to keep them tidy.

six// Use a drawer dividers to organize your most worn make up. If unlike mine, your bathroom has drawers, using drawer dividers will be your best friend! Or you could try keeping things organized under your sink.

Do you have any tips?

Monday, March 20, 2017

How My 101 in 1001 Went

Hello Friends!

For the past 1001 days (about 3 years), I have been challenging myself to complete a list of 101 things. I have learned a lot of things about myself along the way. I can honestly say that it was one of the most difficult and exciting things I've done. My entire life I've been waiting for something (high school to end, college graduation, grad school, a job, etc.) until I felt like I could start working on some of my longer term goals. I was so wrong! Why couldn't I start working on things now? By having a timeline and written goals, I was able to complete more things. I learned about myself and I've enjoyed life more. Now its not just a life of "hopefully", now its time for me to live life! Get what I want.

I learned a lot in these past 1001 days. The biggest takeaway was that just because you want something doesn't mean its going to automatically happen. You have to put in the work. Now I know this sounds silly, but hear me out. I made this list and I knew these were goals I wanted, but if I didn't proactively work on them, nothing would occur. Obviously, some things are easier to do than others, but at the end of the day its on you. You have to plan and work on it.

Obviously, I'm not entirely happy that I did not complete all 101 things. I wish I had, but it didn't happen. What I noticed was I am not the same person that came up with the list. I didn't have all those goals anymore. I am really happy that I was able to complete the 60 items that I did complete. There are a few disappointments, like the reading list and the tying a tie and getting a job. I was just a couple of books away from completing my list :(.

In the upcoming days, I will be writing my 101 in 1001 days part 2. I absolutely want to do this again! I loved this experience. I loved having actual goals to work toward. More than anything I loved being able to enjoy my life and not just wait around. I feel like I am fully living my life. It is also a great way to start crossing off things from my bucket list.

What should I put on my list?

Friday, March 17, 2017

Don't Love It, Don't Buy It

When it comes to shopping, especially clothes, it can be really hard to decide what's appropriate to get and what to leave in the store. Many times we just want to buy the dress because we really like it. Shopping is a chore because I think long and hard before I make any kind of purchase. I try to have a one in, one out rule for my closet. That means for every new item I add to my wardrobe, one of my existing items needs to be donated or trashed. Since I already LOVE everything in my closet, I have to be really, really, sure about any new items I buy.

Shopping as a Minimalist

So how do I decide what to buy when I love shopping? It's tricky. Usually what I do is, I'll set aside time to go shopping. I grab everything that catches my eye. And most important I try everything on. Just like you I'm sure, I hate trying everything on, but it is critical. You want to move around in everything, Stand up, Sit down, Stretch a little. You want to know everything about each piece.

After trying everything on, I don't actually end up buying anything. I've found that it's best to give myself a day or two to think about it. Most items are just "eh" and I'll forget about them. But there's always that one item I absolutely love! Those are the items I will start thinking about going back to get.

You have to fully love something before buying it. Its not just the fit, comfort, color, and price; but every aspect of the piece has to be something you love. I try to come up with places I'll wear a piece and how I'd style it. 

Truly reflect on why you're buying it. Remember you have to switch something in your closet out for the new piece. Once you have that piece in mind you have to value if its really worth it. Are you buying it because you have a coupon? or its inexpensive? can you really see parting ways with what you're swapping out?

Remember you are being intentional in your shopping. You are truly looking forward to something that is 100% perfect for you. At times it might be discouraging, but it will always be worth it! You have to have fun along the way.

How do you shop?

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Traveling Better

Hello Friends!

This year I have a surprising amount of trips planned. It is not usual for me to have this many trips planned. I'm hoping to fully get the hang of planning trips a little better. I've been getting help with my trip planning so I've finally figured out some things.

one//know how long to make the trip

This is one of the harder things to figure out. You want to strike the right balance between perfect and too long or too short. Too much time and I end up hitting a wall and burning out. Too little time and I feel rushed to see it all.

Each trip is different. You need to consider where you are going, what there is to do there and who you are going with. Think back on trips you've gone on and try to remember how you were feeling. Did you wish you had two extra days to adjust to the time change? Or did you get travel fatigued by day seven and wanted to pack up by day five?

two// make a real plan

I think this goes hand in hand with the first tip. This is where you do your main research! I always regret it if I don't plan a trip, especially the shorter trips. I need to have something to do if not I get annoyed and bored and nothing gets done.

Depending on the trip, I'll either map out each day or I'll just write down every place I'd like to go. Check out a map!! You want to see how far apart things are and how out of the way they are. Print out the map and label places. Having this map handy can help you decide where to go.

three//pack well

This is incredibly important. I recommend packing for function and practicality. Whenever I don't do this, I regret it. Comfortable shoes. Great bag to carry everything. Weather appropriate clothes. This usually includes a warm enough coat and boots that keep your feet dry. Look at the weather beforehand so you know what you want to pack.

Packing well for me means packing everything I need to feel comfortable, and interchangeable clothes that mix and match well. I am a light packer which means I really like to plan out my outfits for the vacation. Having planned out the trip, I know what I'll need for the trip and it will cut out unnecessary things.

four//pick your priorities

This is a hard one! Every time I travel I feel like I need to do EVERYTHING. Unfortunately, that's impossible. I have to prioritize what is important for the trip and what to leave behind. Usually this is a bigger problem in larger cities and shorter trips. If you're traveling with other people, make sure you know what everyone else wants to prioritize and don't be afraid to make decisions.

You, also, need to prioritize what kind of trip it is. Are you going to do a lot or relax most of the time? How much downtime do you want? How much do you want to see?

five//eat often

You need to remember to eat when you're on vacation. This always happens to me, I start off so strong then by lunch time, I get so wrapped up in what I'm doing and I some times forget to eat. It's just as important even if you're traveling alone. Food. Often. I like to start my mornings with breakfast. It gets everyone in a good mood for the day ahead.

six//unpack well

After a trip, I like to unpack immediately when I return. The worst part of traveling is having to get back into a routine. The first think I do is unpack, then take a shower and go to sleep. Start with laundry, put your toiletries back in their places, return shoes, and store that suitcase. There's nothing worse than having a suitcase and all your stuff lingering around for days.

Do you have traveling tips?

Friday, March 10, 2017

Cute Spring Trend

Hello Friends!

In exactly 10 days from today we will officially be in Spring!!!! It is so exciting! I think spring is probably my favorite season. It gets underrated because of the rain and school, but there's something fresh about Spring. With spring that means time to clean, your house and closets which obviously means updating your wardrobe!! I don't think I had more fun looking for new clothes than I did these season. I don't know why but I'm really enjoying getting ready for this spring!

What do you like for spring?

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Why Your Hair Is Greasy (How To Fix It!)

Hello Friends!

This happens to all of us. You wake up one morning and your hair is no longer the beauty that it was last night. You know this curse! Now you have shower. In the morning. And rush drying your hair or possibly spend your morning with wet hair. and THIS SUCKS! Especially in winter....when your hair becomes icicles.

After a long time of trying to figure what gives! I finally think I've managed my way around the greasy hair look. Hopefully I can avoid it for a long, long time!! Although its not a perfect science and I could really use some help if you have any. So here goes:

one//You're not using the right Shampoo/Conditioner

This is probably the hardest part! This was my biggest culprit. I never thought about my shampoo or conditioner all that closely. All the truth out there? I would buy whichever gave me the most bang for my buck! Some products are heavier and other contain ingredients that make your hair look greasy. It really is a matter of trial and error until you find what works for you. You have to know your hair type and look for which products are best suited for what you're working with. For example my mom and I have very thick hair, but hers is curly so we can't use the same shampoo. Also consider checking out reviews of a product before investing! I would also suggest finding two or three types of shampoo and conditioner that work for you so that you don't over saturate your hair with the same shampoo and conditioner (This is a real thing that happens!! Then they are less effective).

two//You've got build up

Just like your body, hair can benefit from a detox as well. Try this shampoo once a week to clear out all of the junk. You can also try a hair mask.

three// You're washing your hair too much!

I know this sounds counter intuitive! But it it sooooooooo true!! Washing your hair too often actually strips your hair of essential oils so your scalp starts producing extra to make up the difference. You want to shampoo and condition your hair the least amount possible. Now I know you're sitting there thinking "ummm gross! What if I go to the gym every day? What if I sweat a lot?? Huh Daphne? Huh!!" Well you can still shower! You just rise off and that's all. You don't need to wash your hair to clean it (I know how that sounds but you get me!). Then just put a little dry shampoo and go on with your life. (P.S. this is my fave brand)

four//You're styling it wrong

Now I'm not here to tell you what is the "right" and "wrong" way to style your hair. Its your head you do what you want! But there are some styles that go better with freshly washed hair vs. second/third/fourth day looks. Third or fourth day is a perfect time to whip out that curling iron! Since curls hold better in slightly dirty locks, beach waves are great for second or third day. A volumized style is a great way to get rid of any excess oils. Break out the dry shampoo, curling iron, and a bit of hairspray to make the most of it! Also try to avoid any tight updos or flat styles (straightening iron), those tend to amplify oily roots.

five//You're playing with your hair

I LOVE having people run their fingers through my hair or just playing with my hair. I have about zero self control and am always playing with my hair. This is bad because I'm adding dirt and oils from my hands into my hair. Cutting down on running your fingers through your hair will help.

Do you have any tips?

Monday, March 6, 2017

For Coffee Lovers

Hello Friends!

Coffee is a big part of most of our lives these days. There are some people (and we all know them) that are absolutely obsessed with coffee and all things coffee. I was astonished by how many things you could get for coffee, with coffee, and because of coffee. There are many beauty products and even monthly subscriptions to new types of coffees!! My family is very into coffee and since we are starting birthday season in my family; I decided to start looking into things they would like. With all the options out there I figured I'd share with you all.

What's your favorite coffee thing?

Friday, March 3, 2017

Fun Etsy Finds

Hello Friends!

I absolutely love Etsy. It is the most amazing place to find the unique finds. Lately, I've been on an even bigger Etsy kick. My friend just got engaged and we are planning her wedding, so we are on Etsy and Pinterest all day. I'm also helping another friend redecorate so I spend too much time on Etsy. Here are some of my favorite finds.

Earrings {$14}

What's your favorite Etsy store?